Survivor's Guilt After Sibling Loss: A Gentle Guide for Siblings Living After Loss

After losing Jake and Alanna, I became intimately familiar with the complex feelings that come with being the one who remains. That mix of love, loss, and the weight of continuing forward - it's a uniquely painful part of sibling grief that deserves gentle attention and care. This guide grew from understanding how these feelings can become heavy to carry alone. Here, we'll create space to explore the complicated emotions that arise when we're the ones still here - not to "fix" them or make them go away, but to acknowledge them with tenderness and understanding. Together, we'll look at: The complex feelings that come with being the sibling who remains Ways to hold both your grief and your ongoing life Finding gentle ways to honor your sibling while caring for yourself Creating space for both your loss and your right to keep living Whether your loss is recent or you've been carrying these feelings for years, this space is here for you. You can move through this material at your own pace, taking what feels helpful and leaving what doesn't. This isn't about "getting over" these feelings or learning to "cope better." It's about finding soft, sustainable ways to carry both your love for your sibling and your own continued life story.