In 2019, I lost my brother Jake to suicide.
Two months later, I lost my sister Alanna and my nieces June and Ruby in a car crash.
I didn't know how to do anything after that.
I didn't know how to get through a day. I didn't know how to be in my family anymore. I didn't know who I was without them. And I didn't know how to grieve without the guidance of two of the most important people in my life. The kind of people who would have understood without me having to explain a single thing.
What I remember most from that time isn't the sadness, although there was so much of it. It's the disorientation and the intense loneliness. The creeping feeling that maybe my grief didn't matter as much as everyone else's. That I should be holding it together. That I was supposed to be supporting my parents, not falling apart myself.
No one was really checking in on me. And I didn't know how to do this- how to grieve without them; or how to live without them.
I built The Sibling Grief Community because I know other sibling grievers feel this way too - and it's time we have the community we all need.
With deep love,
Gretchen
grief coach and fellow sibling griever
Who This is For:
This community is for you if:
You feel like the forgotten mourner — overlooked while everyone checks on your parents
You're surrounded by people who love you but don't really understand this loss
You're tired of explaining yourself to people who still have their siblings
You don't just want a one-time group — you want ongoing support that stays
You want a community that holds all of you — not just your grief, but your humor, your hobbies, your ordinary days too — because you're a whole person, not just a mourner
WHAT'S INSIDE THIS COMMUNITY
Each week, this community shows up for you with:
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A loss-type specific group just for you — whether you lost your sibling to suicide, addiction, sudden accident, or illness, you'll be connected with siblings who understand the specific shape of your pain, not just sibling loss in genera
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A weekly check-in that reminds you to care for yourself — sometimes that's moving your body, sometimes it's scheduling something just for you. Small, gentle nudges that actually fit real life.
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Resources, research, and articles curated specifically for sibling grief — things like the neuroscience of traumatic loss, suicide loss resources, or what the literature actually says about why sibling grief is so invisible. No generic grief content.
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Prompts to talk about the things sibling grievers carry — the family dynamics, the identity shift, the directionless feeling of not knowing how to do life without them.
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Space to share memories, pictures, and stories of your sibling with others who also understand the desire to keep talking about these people we love and miss so deeply.
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Conversations about your favorite shows, hobbies, and the ordinary stuff — because real friendship isn't just trauma bonding.
How this community happens...
A loss-type specific WhatsApp group — based on how your sibling died (whether through suicide loss, addiction loss, loss to a sudden accident, illness, and more), so you can connect with people who understand specific parts of your pain.
A main community chat where all siblings connect
Two. optional Zoom meetings per month for the whole community
(one meeting will always be on the weekend, and the other weekday nights to account for differing time zones and schedules)
The commitment: The commitment: This is a 6-month membership — not because we want to lock you in, but because you've already had too many things disappear on you. Real friendships take time, and this community is built to actually last.
*many sibling grievers from my groups have happened to meet someone who lived near them. As our community expands so will live meetup options)
Lauren Tanner
(past sibling group participant)
"Before my brother died I had never really experienced grief. I was the first person in my friend group to experience a traumatic loss so I felt lost and alone.
This group has made me comfortable in knowing that I'm not alone. I not only got the support that I needed but also feel like I've made true friendships. I know my brother Colton would be proud of me for taking the steps I needed to heal."
Danielle Chi
(past sibling group participant)
"I have a therapist, but Gretchen and this grief group have been more meaningful and helpful in navigating the complexity of my deep pain. I don't feel so alone or shameful about where I am. I feel more positive and hopeful about living with this grief and love for my brother moving forward."
Sara
(past sibling group participant)
"Losing my brother was like losing a part of myself I didn't think I'd ever have to live without. He lived in parts of me I didn't even realize.
Everyone in this group understands that."
"It's a sucky club to be a part of.
But so many beautiful people are in it that it helps you feel less alone."
— Laurel Hope Hart
(past sibling group participant)
You deserve a space where someone shows up for you.
Where your grief is not too much.
Where your sibling's name is welcome.
I built this for you.
Frequently Asked Questions
When does the community open?
The community official starts April 1st- however I will add you to the main group chat starting the last week of March d to allow people to begin introducing themselves and their siblings.
Sub group chats will not open until April
What can I expect after I register?
You will get an email from me with a link to a form for you to fill our more information about your sibling. This helps me put you into the right sub groups, and also gives me information that will allow me to make this community, the resources I share, and how I structure sessions specifically helpful for YOU and your grief.❤️
Where does the community actually live?
In WhatsApp (for our ongoing Sibling Grief Group chat and your loss-type group) and Zoom (for live meetings). That's it — no new apps to figure out.
What happens after 6 months?
You can choose whether or not you would like to continue for another 6 months :) You can stay in this community as long as you would like!
Is there a sliding scale?
If $40/month is a barrier, reach out before enrollment closes. I don't want cost to be the reason you grieve alone.
Best Value
Sibling Grief Community
40
Every month
Valid for 6 months