I'll teach you how to protect yourself from:
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Feeling guilty every time you say no to someone
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Overextending yourself because you "should" be handling things better
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People who tell you what your grief "should" look like by now
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Pretending you're fine when you're absolutely not
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Letting others' comfort dictate your healing timeline
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Invasive questions about how they died
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Toxic positivity and "everything happens for a reason"
Here's What Changes
Before This Course:
X Dreading family events
X Answering invasive questions to keep the peace
X Exhausted from performing recovery
X Guilt when you say no
X Avoiding everyone because you don't know what else to do
After This Course:
→ Scripts you can use tomorrow
→ Permission to protect yourself at your capacity level
→ Less guilt when you say no
→ A system that works WITH your trauma response
→ Tools for every situation you're facing
🎥 Video Training: The 4-Level Boundary System
From Level 1 (avoidance and deflection when direct boundaries feel impossible) all the way to Level 4 (firm boundaries when gentler approaches haven't worked). You choose what matches your capacity today.
📝 50+ Ready-to-Use Scripts
For the exact situations you're facing: invasive questions about how they died, unsolicited advice, toxic positivity, pressure to attend events, decisions about belongings, people who want you to comfort THEM about your sibling's death, and more.
📚 3 Downloadable Companion Guides
Complete Boundary Scripts organized by level and situation
Guilt Processing Guide (because guilt after boundaries is normal)
Assess Your Own Scenario framework
♾️ Lifetime Access + All Future Updates
Your grief evolves. When I learn something new that helps my clients, I'll update the course. You get all updates at no additional cost. Forever.
"My mom kept calling me every single day to process her grief about my brother. I'd spend an hour listening to her cry, and then I'd have nothing left for my own life.
I tried Level 2 ('I'm pretty tapped out, Mom') but she'd just say 'I know, me too' and just keep going on
Finally I had to be clearer: 'Mom, I love you and I don’t have the tools to give you the support you need through this. I really care about you and I really want you to find a grief counselor or someone who can help you with all of this.
She was hurt at first and it was brutal. Definitely needed help sorting through my own guilt and fear around it. The transition to less chatting wasn't easier because she didn't change how much she called. But since I had established that boundary it was easier to say "I'm exhausted from work" and things like that to end the conversation. This helped her be more willing to talk about things BESIDES grief which was really helpful for our relationship.
Honestly I feel like if I had said nothing I would've started avoiding her completely."
Dev, 1 year after losing their brother
Is This For You?
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People ask invasive questions about your grief that you don't know how to answer.
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You feel guilty every time you say no
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Family members expect you to comfort THEM about your sibling's death
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You're exhausted from working so hard to appear 'strong' or like a 'good griever'
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Direct confrontation feels impossible right now
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You need scripts you can actually use tomorrow
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You're in survival mode and need protection that works WITH your trauma response
Common Questions
"I don't have energy for a course right now"
This isn't a demanding course with homework and deadlines. It's video-based training you can watch at your own pace, plus downloadable scripts you can reference anytime. Start with just grabbing the scripts if that's all you have capacity for.
"What if confrontation triggers my trauma response?"
Level 1 is ALL avoidance—no confrontation required. Just leaving the room, not responding to texts, using the bathroom excuse. It's designed specifically for when direct boundaries feel impossible. You never have to move beyond Level 1 if that's what protects you.
"Will this work for suicide loss specifically?"
Yes. This course was built specifically for traumatic grief, including suicide loss and sudden death. The scripts include responses to the exact invasive questions suicide loss survivors face. I've worked with hundreds of suicide loss survivors and built this from their real experience
"How long is the course?"
The video training is designed to be digestible—you can watch it all in one sitting or break it into sections. The companion guides are downloadable PDFs you can reference forever. There's no required order or timeline.
"What if I can't handle video right now?"
You can skip straight to the downloadable scripts and guides. They're formatted to be used independently of the videos if needed. The videos provide context and examples, but the scripts work on their own.
"Is this different from therapy?"
Yes. This isn't therapy or clinical treatment. This is practical, trauma-informed tools for protecting your capacity. Think of it as a survival toolkit, not therapy. (Though it can absolutely work alongside therapy.)
Why I Built This
I'm Gretchen, and I run a grief coaching business specializing in traumatic grief support—particularly sibling loss and suicide loss. This work isn't theoretical for me. I've navigated multiple sudden family losses, including siblings and nieces.
I've supported hundreds of grievers through traumatic loss, and I kept seeing the same pattern: people who were drowning because they couldn't say no. Who felt guilty for protecting themselves. Who needed permission to use avoidance when direct confrontation felt impossible.
So I built this 4-level system—from avoidance all the way to firm boundaries—because different days require different tools. And I put it all in one place so you don't have to figure this out alone while you're already in survival mode.
