Work With Me
Trauma-informed support for the hardest losses—without toxic positivity, without timelines, without pretending this is anything but devastating.
I'm Gretchen,
and I specialize in trauma-informed grief support for people navigating the hardest losses—particularly sibling loss and suicide loss.
If someone you love died suddenly—by suicide, overdose, accident, or violence—you know that "normal" grief support doesn't cut it.
You're not just grieving. You're traumatized. Your nervous system is stuck in survival mode. People keep telling you things that make it worse. You need something different.
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I've lived this. I've lost siblings and nieces to sudden death. I know what it's like when your body won't calm down, when people say things that destroy you, when traditional grief support feels completely inadequate for what you're experiencing.
My primary work is one-on-one coaching. These sessions are where we work together on your specific situation—your nervous system, your boundaries, your family dynamics, your survival strategies. It's personalized, boundaried support that meets you exactly where you are.
But I also know that 1:1 coaching isn't accessible to everyone, or maybe you're not ready for that level of support yet. So I've created three other ways to work with me:
Stop feeling guilty every time you say no—even when grief has you in survival mode.
This boundary system meets you exactly where you are. From using avoidance and deflection when direct boundaries feel impossible to firm boundaries when gentler approaches haven't worked.
What You Get:
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Video training about traumatic grief, and why boundaries are different after trauma
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50+ ready-to-use scripts for specific situations
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A guide to processing guilt (because guilt is normal after boundaries)
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Framework for assessing your own scenarios
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Lifetime access + all future updates
This is for you if:
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People ask invasive questions about how they died
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You feel guilty every time you say no
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Family expects you to comfort THEM about your loss
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You're exhausted from performing recovery
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Direct confrontation feels impossible right now
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You need scripts you can actually use tomorrow
Format: Video-based course with downloadable companion guides. Work at your own pace. No worksheets, no 'homework', no pressure.
Any griever experiencing traumatic loss who needs a clear path forward.
Updated for your situation— Each guide is custom-built with verified local resources.
What You Get:
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Personalized Opening Letter that validates YOUR specific loss and explains your trauma symptoms
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10-13 custom documents built for your situation (books, podcasts, therapists, somatic care, support groups, roadmap)
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All resources verified with working links + insurance confirmation
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Explanations (not just lists) - you'll know exactly WHY each resource is chosen for you
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Trauma education guide so you understand what's happening in your nervous system
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Interview questions for therapists + outreach scripts that give YOU control over disclosure
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8-week roadmap broken into small, manageable steps
This is for you if:
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You're experiencing traumatic grief (suicide loss, sudden death, witnessed death, medical trauma)
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You have PTSD symptoms (intrusive thoughts, brain fog, hypervigilance, numbness)
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You can't function well enough to research therapists yourself
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You're exhausted from generic grief advice that doesn't address trauma
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You don't know where to start or what kind of care you actually need
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You need verified local resources you can contact this week
Format: Video-based course with downloadable companion guides. Work at your own pace. No worksheets, no 'homework', no pressure.
Group support specifically for people who lost a brother or sister.
Sibling loss is different. It's disenfranchised grief—people don't understand why you're "still" struggling when it "wasn't your child or spouse." Your family dynamics shifted. Your identity changed. You lost your past, present, and future all at once.
This group is where you can stop explaining and just be witnessed by people who get it.
What You Get:
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Live Zoom sessions with 10-12 other sibling loss survivors
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Tools you can ACTUALLY use to cope with the pain of sibling grief
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Strong bonds with others who understand the pain of sibling grief
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Framework for navigating changed family dynamics
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A continuing group chat with the other participants that continues LONG after the group ends
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Connection with people who understand sibling loss without you having to educate them
This is for you if:
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Your sibling died traumatically: from medical trauma, by suicide, overdose, or accident
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You feel invisible in your family's grief
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You want to be able to ask questions and form bonds with other sibling grievers.
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You have no idea who you are after this loss and need a safe space to explore how this grief has impacted you.
Format: Video-based course with downloadable companion guides. Work at your own pace. No worksheets, no 'homework', no pressure.